Do you ever ask yourself: "But WHY can't I get this done? Everyone else seems to be able to! What's wrong with me?!" 

"Blood, sweat and tears" - Ewww...

Maybe it's emails that scare you? Or perhaps it's looking at your finances that you're avoiding? Maybe it's going to the gym that you end up deciding to do "tomorrow" yet again. 

There’s a common factor in all of these issues, and it drives me nuts: Shaming where you’re at right now, instead of focusing on helping yourself based on what you actually need.

Now, it makes total sense. If you’ve grown up absorbing the attitude that “Everything valuable comes with blood, sweat and tears”, you’re not alone. And to this attitude I say: “Eww.”

Shaming yourself for not excelling at every single type of task is a profoundly unproductive use of your precious time and life energy.

Yeah, maybe someone else “can do it all” but more likely than not, they actually can’t. Maybe what’s falling apart in their life is something you’re not privy to, like the state of their marriage or the health of their liver.

Mind your own business & focus on accepting yourself

You can guess about other people’s private business until the end of time, but perhaps you’re better off focusing your energy on accepting that what you’re working with is the body-mind that you have right now, and that’s that.

(And if someone else is judging you for not being able to get everything done the way they do, they’re delusional and not to be taken seriously. We’re all so different.)

You’ll never succeed following someone else’s path anyway, so why keep looking at it?

Self acceptance means working with yourself as you are

In other words, this is your official pass to look at what you don’t enjoy doing in your work, and to get help with that! Doing that will not only make you successful, but also create a life for you that feels amazing to you.

It’s time to give up on blaming and shaming yourself, and instead get curious, inventive and helpful about exactly what kind of help would allow you to stay in your zone of genius.

Own your hate

If you hate dealing with your email right now, I don’t want you to stop. Own it. Let yourself hate it from the bottom of your heart and take action based on that hate. Hate it so much that you refuse to deal with it. And come up with a solution to make your job work anyway. 

My prediction is, that the more profoundly you own how you feel about something, the more inventive you’re able to get about finding a solution to it.

And the more creative you can get, the more likely it is that the new solution will make everything work much better than it ever did with you trying to do every single thing by yourself!

Stop trying to do it all by yourself

The fact is, it’s fricken hard to work alone. And on the other hand, teaming up with someone else (who’s a good fit for you), leads to things moving forward a LOT faster.

You’re naturally accountable to someone else, and they’re right there to help you out with stuff that makes you uncomfortable and that you’d otherwise avoid and get increasingly anxious about.

Please do this instead

This is my appeal to you, my friend:

1. Stop judging and shaming yourself for what’s difficult for you. Own it fully.
   You’re imperfect, welcome to the club! 😎✌️
2. Get in touch with your excitement and get curious about how to get there:
   "What would you need to have taken off your plate for you to be able to do the thing only you can do?"
3. Give yourself permission to get the help & take action to try it out

Throw money at it (if you can)

You might be in a position to be able to pay someone to help you, like hiring a  virtual assistant for a focus hour twice a week (it's more affordable than you think!).
Or it might be a personal trainer, or a coach that you hire.

Or offer your energy and help in return

Or you might go the route of finding someone who you can team up with for free, helping each other work in tandem on your projects, asking good questions and helping each other with whatever you’re each avoiding.

In summary:

Treat yourself like you deserve to be here exactly as you are right now. You’re great. Now go show yourself some love by giving yourself exactly what you need to succeed. 

It's time to start your most productive era ever. 

This article is inspired by the brilliant Rachel Rodgers, and I absolutely recommend you check out her book: "We should all be millionaires".

Lots and lots of love,
Sara